How do you tell someone you’re sorry for something so horrific as the loss of a loved one by the hand of someone else? What can you possibly say that could ease even the slightest amount of pain?
Today as I was doing my clients hair, the same client that lost her husband due to a brutal shooting not that long ago, I tried to offer any support or sympathy that I could. We spoke a little about how she and her family were coping and then she pretty much told me that she couldn’t talk more about it. It’s just too painful.
A few chairs down my other client was sitting with color on her head. She lost her grandson not all that long ago from a fall from his college apartment window. I stand there trying to make sense of why they could lose the people that they love, but am reminded how we all at different times of our lives lose the people we love. I just wish I can offer something to help them. Something to say that can ease their pain for a little while.
I finally came out and told my client exactly that. That I wish I could say something that would help eliminate some of her pain, and her response was that I had. Just by saying that. She lost her husband and her 2 kids lost their father. His family lost their son and brother.
Every single person in my salon could tell me a story about their loved ones they’ve lost. I guess if I can make someone like that laugh, or cry even, or just smile with the satisfaction of liking the work I produced by doing their hair, then I can feel that as humans we touch each others souls and it makes it better. Even when comparing war stories it makes us all part of something more than just a day to day existence. It touches me deeper than you can imagine.